After 22 years of marriage, my husband continues to tease me that I have a place for everything. There are baskets for baskets - if you know what I mean. Things have a reason for being "out". If not "out" there is a drawer for it to rest.
It was the movement away from this practice that made me realize change was happening in my home. What used to be put away after use was now in full sight. The blood pressure cuff on the end table. The thermometer on the nightstand. The pill bottles that used to drive me nuts if on the counter for anyone to see - all in plain sight. They are used too frequently. It doesn't make sense to use extra precious energy to put them in a drawer. Imagine that. An unplanned change was happening and we were in the process of acceptance. We began to adjust as a household and as a couple.
The tentacles of impending and unplanned change can come slow. If we are observant we will know at the early stage, as we start to accept the small infractions that we would not accept under normal circumstances or standard operations.
As I now finish this piece a week after the test results came back, my husband is in the clear for the moment. The lesson learned is to examine the small, early signs of departure from "normal" for an inkling that an unplanned change is underway. We slowly tolerate what we would not have previously tolerated.
In your sphere of influence what small infractions are you passing by? That is your first clue that an unplanned change is upon you. Now is the time to adjust and be proactive. Alter your view and begin to manage the process. Prepare for the impact - good or otherwise.
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